Aitch, I was so moved by this post I have joined up especially to be able to tell you how much i admire your honesty, your approach to parenting and your writing. I only found this blog yesterday (through google if you're interested) and already it has given me tons of brilliant info, inspiration, belly laughs and a new perspective on the bf/ff thing. Looking forward to putting some of the ideas you and everyone else have given me into practice with my wee guy in 6 weeks or so...if I can hold out...got some health visitor issues, but that's another story!