aitch/dizzy thanks for this one; dd has just started nursery this week and your post gave me the courage to expain very calmly (unusual for flustered old me!) what i would like them to do etc....and do you know what? they were great about it! went over a few things (like give her a weetabix as a biscuit?!?! and 'are you sure its ok if she doesnt eat much?) but were really helpful. she wont be eating there till next week but watch this space...