First off, I don't think the BLW child centred thing conflicts at all with parental control over the food offered. After all, they don't wander into the kitchen at 9 months old and say "you know what Mum, I really fancy Kate's pesto rice cakes today"! We decide WHAT they eat - they decide HOW (and whether, of course!) We don't really do treats as such. We do "oh god have this and please stop screaming" - is that the same? Sometimes it's a biscuit, often a smoothie, but just as good is a chunk of cucumber or some strong cheese (or in my strange son's case, a spicy prawn!) My husband says that when he was a child, his mum always had at least one cake on the go in the kitchen, and he would invariably have a slice of cake and a drink when he got home from school (in addition to dinner). But then he would spend 2 hours racing around the garden with his brothers. I completely agree with everything in moderation, and no BAD or GOOD foods (except liquorice. Bleugh.) A balanced diet and plenty of exercise, that's the key I think (says chubby Bunny, sat on the sofa with a glass of Coke)...