i like that site too, cassie, she's really great, a deeply sensible woman. i think we might just have to put the comments that already exist on my posts onto the main site and any conversation will continue onto the forum. (you know we have a forum, right? it's on the left, just there). because if i told you how many questions i got every day your hair might turn white... so it was one of the reasons i needed the support of everyone else to deal with things as they come up on the forum.